The Importance of Attending Appointments with Elderly Parents
By Lois Thompson
Doctors' appointments can be stressful for anyone, but the elderly may be especially confused about issues they are experiencing or have questions but aren't sure how to express them. Having someone accompany them to appointments can help ease their mind and can also make sure the physician's explanations and recommendations are understood and relayed to the patient.
If you are attending the appointment with an elderly parent, you might want to discuss the following:
Mention any concerns you have, whether you've noticed lapses in memory, pain your loved one is experiencing, etc. You doctor can gain a better outlook when he or she realizes what you are observing.
If tests are being performed, ask what their purpose is.
If new medications are being prescribed, ask about possible side effects and ascertain that the medications will not have a negative reaction with ones currently being taken; also be sure to note the schedule of usage.
On a regular basis, review all prescriptions with the physician; some may no longer be necessary and therefore can be eliminated, or can have the dosage reduced.
Ask about local resources that may be available, such as Meals on Wheels or transportation options, to help ease day-to-day tasks. The physician will likely be familiar with and able to recommend such support groups.
Make a note if you see any changes – physical or mental – as your parent ages. The doctor may be able to point out things to watch for that could be based on underlying conditions.
Equally important, be sure to treat your parent with respect during the appointment. Don't treat them like a child and allow them to respond or ask questions as they are able.